Baby Loss Tree, Parkland Walk (south)

Remembering those lost before they lived

The Parkland Walk offers a wonderful way to connect with nature while looking out for the remains of the railway that once ran along this route to Alexandra Palace. Various bridges allow for different views of the city, while the statue of a Spriggan peers down from the brick arches onto those walking below.

Near the Highgate end of the route, set back from the path, stands an established ancient oak tree draped in colourful ribbons and name tags. This is the Baby Loss Tree.

The History of the Tree

The memorial was born from a deeply personal place. The idea came from Hilary Grierson, a local Crouch End mother who created it in honour of her son, Hamish, who was stillborn.

In 2019, Hilary and her sons initially created a temporary pink and blue 'tree' using branches and tags so families could leave messages during their first annual Baby Loss Awareness Walk. Moved by the community's response, a local Haringey Council councillor approached Hilary to help establish a permanent space. As planting a new tree is not permitted on the nature reserve this oak tree was selected.

While Hilary initially engraved wooden plaques herself, these have since been upgraded to lasting slate memorials bearing the babies' names. Today, ribbons and tags adorn the lower branches, cuddly toys rest around the roots, and a dedicated bench provides a quiet place for reflection beneath the boughs. Easily accessed near the Holmesdale Road entrance, the tree is lovingly cared for by local volunteers and members of the Stillbirth and Neonatal Death Charity (SANDS).

Annual Walk of Remembrance

The community continues to gather each year during Baby Loss Awareness Week (9–15 October) for a peaceful woodland walk that concludes at the memorial tree. Because this is a grassroots event organised locally alongside SANDS volunteers, the logistics follow a familiar yearly schedule:

• Date: Traditionally held at the start of Baby Loss Awareness Week (expected Friday, 9 October 2026, or the adjacent weekend). Specific timings are finalised closer to October.

• Meeting Point: Walkers gather near the Holmesdale Road entrance, Highgate end, before heading down the trail together.

• The Route: A gentle, peaceful walk along the old railway line nature reserve, ending at the ancient oak.

• The Gathering: A brief, informal memorial featuring short readings, music, and quiet reflection.

• Tributes: Attendees are welcome to tie ribbons to the branches, sit on the memorial bench, or view the permanent slate plaques.

The Global Wave of Light

The week culminates on the final evening, Wednesday, October 15th 2026, at 19:00, 

when families across North London and worldwide light a candle for one hour 

to create a global 'Wave of Light' in memory of all babies lost too soon.